psychology of attachment Archives

Emotional Numbness: When You Feel ‘Nothing’ But Know Something’s Wrong

There’s a quiet kind of suffering that doesn’t scream.No tears. No panic attacks.Just… nothing. You get through the day. You laugh at the right moments. You tick things off your to-do list. But deep down, something feels off — like you’re watching your life happen rather than living it. If that sounds familiar, you may […]

“The Black Sheep Experience: When You’re the One Who Doesn’t ‘Fit In’ with Family”

“You’re too sensitive.”“Why can’t you be more like your sister?”“Stop causing drama.”If this sounds familiar, you might be the black sheep in your family—and no, it’s not in your head. Growing up as the “black sheep” isn’t just about feeling different. It’s about being treated differently—often unfairly. You might have been the one who questioned […]

“Trauma Bonds vs. Real Love: When Pain Feels Like Home”

Sometimes, what we call love is really just familiar pain in disguise. Trauma bonding happens when you form a strong emotional attachment to someone who is inconsistent, neglectful, or even harmful—because they remind you of what you’ve known before. This pattern is especially common in survivors of childhood emotional neglect, abuse, or abandonment. 💔 What […]

“When Parents Aren’t Emotionally Mature: How It Affects You as an Adult”

Some parents provide food, shelter, and education—but may lack the emotional maturity to truly nurture their child’s psychological and emotional needs. If you grew up with a parent who couldn’t regulate their own emotions, dismissed yours, or made you feel responsible for their wellbeing, the effects often linger well into adulthood. This post is for […]

“When Helping Hurts: The Hidden Trap of Codependency”

In many South African families and relationships, being caring and supportive is celebrated—but sometimes, that support crosses a line. You may find yourself constantly rescuing others, fixing their messes, or sacrificing your own needs. That’s not always love. It might be codependency. 💡 What Is Codependency? Codependency happens when your sense of self-worth becomes tied […]