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What Your Body Might Be Telling You About Stress

We often think of stress as something that exists only in our minds—worry, overthinking, restlessness. But stress lives in the body too. And if you ignore your feelings long enough, your body will start to talk. In fact, for many people in South Africa and around the world, the body becomes the messenger for emotions […]

Boundaries Are Not Mean: Why Saying No is an Act of Self-Respect

In South Africa—and many cultures around the world—there’s a quiet pressure to be agreeable, accommodating, and selfless. Especially in families, relationships, and communities, people are often praised for “putting others first” and told they’re selfish or rude for setting limits. But here’s the truth: Boundaries are not rude. Boundaries are necessary. If you constantly feel […]

Why Do We Fear Change? Understanding Resistance to Growth and How to Overcome It

“I want things to be different… but what if it all goes wrong?” Change can be scary—even when we know it’s necessary. Whether it’s leaving an unhealthy relationship, changing careers, starting therapy, or setting boundaries, many of us stay stuck in familiar discomfort rather than risk the unknown. But why do we do this to […]

Why Am I So Emotionally Reactive? Understanding Triggers and Emotional Flashbacks

Have you ever found yourself reacting in a way that felt too intense for the situation? Maybe you snapped at someone over something small, felt like shutting down during a disagreement, or suddenly became anxious for no clear reason. You’re not “too sensitive” or “crazy.” You may be experiencing an emotional trigger—or even a flashback […]

The Psychology of Procrastination: Why You Keep Putting Things Off (And How to Stop)

Procrastination isn’t just about laziness or poor time management—it’s deeply linked to emotions, fear, and self-doubt. You know the feeling: you put off an important task, promise yourself you’ll start later, and then feel guilty when you don’t. But why do we do this to ourselves? Understanding the psychology behind procrastination can help break the […]